In most human interaction physical attraction is the spark that starts relationship between a man and a woman. A woman physical attractiveness manifest it’s qualities in many forms, so even in a burqah, her physicality is still evident. Many would consider physical attraction as being superficial and plastic but it too has its inner strength. Hence the age old dictum, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Some might argue that the beauty-is-in-the-eyes-of-the-beholder theory is a fallacy because our society has put its own barometer on physical perfection. However, we are not here to debate on that notion.
I am more interested to further dwell on man-woman relationship and how physical beauty contributes to such endeavor. A friend is about to start such endeavor. Seeing how he struggle with his emotions, I just had to write it down for further analysis. Not being particularly interested with the whole idea of kiss and tell, I will not put down my own past exploit as example but rather adhere to the matter at hand.
As the heart grew fonder, the desire to be close and to know each other grew bigger. This would develop into a meaningful relationship. The word desire may have sexual overtone but at this phase of a relationship, sexual feeling are some what suppressed, in my book at least.
As time passes, a relationship will either grew closer or will be saturated, feeling wise. A relation ship that fosters mutual understanding will blossom to love, which is a matter of the heart. Love is also a physical state of mind that influences the whole emotional gamut of a person. In my religion, all of these will translate into marriage. Insya Allah, marriage of such pedigree will last a life time.
One may feel all sort of emotion upheaval in these early stages, mainly from the uncertainties. A long list of uncertainties. How do you know if the girl even likes you? How do you fancy your chances with other man of similar or even better qualities? You ask your self 100 questions that will challenge your own self belief. A person with confidence would brush away all these uncertainties with bravado, but then over confidence can some time spell disaster. A person with chronic inferiority complex would continue to ask this question for ever so long.
I am more interested to further dwell on man-woman relationship and how physical beauty contributes to such endeavor. A friend is about to start such endeavor. Seeing how he struggle with his emotions, I just had to write it down for further analysis. Not being particularly interested with the whole idea of kiss and tell, I will not put down my own past exploit as example but rather adhere to the matter at hand.
As the heart grew fonder, the desire to be close and to know each other grew bigger. This would develop into a meaningful relationship. The word desire may have sexual overtone but at this phase of a relationship, sexual feeling are some what suppressed, in my book at least.
As time passes, a relationship will either grew closer or will be saturated, feeling wise. A relation ship that fosters mutual understanding will blossom to love, which is a matter of the heart. Love is also a physical state of mind that influences the whole emotional gamut of a person. In my religion, all of these will translate into marriage. Insya Allah, marriage of such pedigree will last a life time.
One may feel all sort of emotion upheaval in these early stages, mainly from the uncertainties. A long list of uncertainties. How do you know if the girl even likes you? How do you fancy your chances with other man of similar or even better qualities? You ask your self 100 questions that will challenge your own self belief. A person with confidence would brush away all these uncertainties with bravado, but then over confidence can some time spell disaster. A person with chronic inferiority complex would continue to ask this question for ever so long.
My advice is to throw caution to the wind and proceed with confidence. Build a strong friendship as your base, learn each other thoughts and mechanics. From there, both will learn each other strength and weakness. Only then, the relationship can guide itself through the blissful state of being in love.
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