Life is a Sunday: May 2008

Physical attraction is the first attraction!
In most human interaction physical attraction is the spark that starts relationship between opposite sex (and same sex in some cases). A woman physical attractiveness manifest it’s qualities in many forms, so even in a burqah, her physicality is still evident to the eye of the beholder. Many would consider physical attraction as being superficial and plastic but it too has its inner strength. This strength is generated from the fact that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. But the again, some might argue that the beauty-is-in-the-eyes-of-the-beholder theory is to a certain extent is a fallacy as our society has put its own barometer on physical perfection. But then again we are not here to debate on that notion.

I am more interested to further dwell on man-woman relationship and how physical beauty contributes to such endeavor. A friend is about to start such endeavor, which as I pointed earlier as a result to physical attraction. Seeing how he struggle with his emotions, I just had to write it down for further analysis. Not being particularly interested with the whole idea of kiss and tell, I will not put down my own past exploit as example but rather adhere to the matter at hand.

As the heart grew fonder, the desire to be close and to know each other grew bigger. This would develop into a meaningful relationship. The word desire may have sexual overtone but at this phase of a relationship, sexual feeling are some what suppressed, my book at least.

As time passes, close relationship will either remain close or will develop into physical relation which is sexual in nature.. A close relation ship that fosters mutual understanding will quickly blossom to love, which is a matter of the heart. Love is also a physical state of mind that influences the whole emotional well being of a person. In our religion, all of these will translate into marriage. . Insya Allah, love and marriage of such pedigree will last a life time.

He may feel all sort of emotion upheaval in these early stages, mainly from the uncertainties.
A long list of uncertainties. How do you know if the girl even likes you? How do you fancy your chances with other man of similar or even better qualities? You ask your self 100 questions that will challenged your own self belief. A person with confidence would brush away all these uncertainties with bravado, but then over confidence can some time spell disaster. A person with chronic inferiority complex would continue to ask this question for ever so long
Please throw caution to the wind but proceed with absolute honesty, to both parties. Get to know the person first and learn the qualities that make the woman, then let the relationship guide itself.